a solo dinner can only be romanticised by a person who has immense-love for themselves.
-brutally said by my mom while I told her about this blog topic.
I am definitely not a fan of booking a table for one. A very tiny part in me still crawls inward when I walk into a full restaurant for dinner by myself. Dining alone comes with my job, but I had to go through innumerable meals to even start enjoying them.
So no, I am not asking you to walk in to a bar for a drink or go to a movie alone for your first solo date. Even though it may feel a bit overwhelming at first and you might get to thinking that you are just a person who doesn't have friends or are unlovable. But most times we don't even truly completely enjoy the activities we are out to do just because we are in the influence of other people.
In a real world where it is difficult to let go of responsibilities and spontaneously book a flight ticket and leave the least we can do is enjoy the little pleasures life has to offer. Often times a person goes years without realising that they haven't really done something meaningful (not substantial) in years because they are stuck in the cycle of 'just living'
At times like these, I urge you, try. Buy yourself a nice outfit if you can or if you have one that you feel comfortable but fabulous in, wear that. Book yourself a table in advance to get the whole feel of a dinner date. Call for a nice wine or cocktail, whatever you wanted to try but probably didn't because it felt weird with your friends.
Maybe the first time will feel weird, you would probably want to play a show or fidget with your phone so 'look' busy. But silence the noise in your head. Come back to the table, to the beautiful meal in front of you and just enjoy.
If you feel adventurous today, start off early how I did in Munich and end the day with a beautiful dinner. be excited about it. Do not keep assuming what others would be thinking, trust me, nobody cares. It is something we condition our minds to think it has absolutely nothing to do with other people.
What are your thoughts or challenges that stop you from such a life altering experience let me know in the comments.